Why am I punished for what he did?

Why do you still take his calls and/or see him, after what he did?

If he cared so much, why is he showing attention only after you mentioned me?

Why is it so hard for you to tell me the TRUTH about what is going on?

How can you talk to more than one guy at a time and really get to know each one. Isn't your goal a relationship.

A relationship may lead to marriage and or kids. Wouldn't you like to think you made a good choice?



Why are you paying for what he did?

In all experiences, we should never lose the lesson that within. However, many people tend to group experiences instead of lessons. For example, a person has had 3 serious relationships and two of the three men/women cheated on the person. It is easier for one to say that all men/women cheat than it is for one to analyze that individuals' past relationships, upbringing, or maturity; what led to the infidelity or even what part they played. We all do it at some point. It is like racism, sexism and all the other ism's. The conclusion that better suits our emotional comfort, it the one we usually choose.



People take their ex's calls because it unless the person was really psycho or the sex/relationship was horrible, it plays to our "desire to be desired."



He is showing interest after she mentioned you because for many the courting process is a game and competition is apart of the game. In addition, no one wants things that no one else wants. i.e. if no one else want a Superbowl ring, players wouldn't practice or care about their performance, but because every team wants the ring, they do whatever they deem necessary to get the ring. Things are much more attractive when someone else has it. You ever sit in a restaurant and look a menu and nothing jumps out at you, but when you look at the person next to you eating something, it looks better?





The truth…

Why is it so hard for you to tell me the TRUTH about what is going on?



More people then you think are actually unaware that it is okay to tell the truth. You have to blatantly tell people that it's okay t tell you the truth, even if it may hurt you. Otherwise, people will assume that you want your feelings protected. Then there are other people lie because it hides who they really are. They eventually start telling you the truth and you realize that they are not the person that they have been pawning themselves off as for the past 6 months. They feel that the truth is optional and they opt not to tell it.







On your most recent blog...How can you...



You said –"How can you date more that one person at the same time...A relationship may lead to marriage and or kids. Wouldn't you like to think you made a good choice?"



You do not usually make a choice with one option. I'd like to think that making a choice requires a comparison.





Have you ever heard the term, things come in three's? For some people they do not meet one interest at a time. They meet several. It is hard to get rid of any when either you do not know any of them well enough or you know the same amount of info about each of them. (Their "representative" is always everything that you want in a mate) Your hoping that someone will rise above the rest or someone will mess up or fall outside of your "ideal box" and make it easier to get rid of him or her, but it does not always happen that way. What usually winds up happening it that that we spread ourselves thin trying to give each love interest attention and wind up having nothing because the one the other person perceives your lack of attention as a lack of interest. The solution may be to tune in on the things that you want and ask questions in the beginning that you usually wait months to ask. This way you get rid of the riff-raff earlier and are able to focus on those who have real potential for whatever you may be looking for in a mate.



Also, do not assume that everyone that says that they want a relationship is actually looking or a relationship. Some people say that because they know what you want to hear. Reality is they may be looking for sex buddies or trying to gold dig. Watch out. In time, people will reveal who they really are. Be patient...

By Datgal97