IT' WAS SO CRAZY TO SEE WHAT MY BABY LOOKS LIKE FOR THE FIRST TIME. WE ARE HOPING FOR A BOY ATLEAST I AM HE WANTS A LITTLE GIRL. TO SEE THE LITTLE HEARTBEAT WAS JUST OVERWELMING.

I AM HAVING A BABY I WOULD HAVE NEVER THOUGHT IN A MILLOIN YEARS THAT I WOULD!!!!!!! AND I AM GETTING MARRIED TO THE MOST WONDERFUL MAN IN THE WORLD!!!!!!!

GOD IS WONDERFUL!!!!!!!!!!!

Change, change is good for everyone especially when it's something that you want to do . I am a person that loves and accepts change in my life weather it's good or bad, for the simple fact that you learn from it. The one type of change I cant understand is when 2 people are in a relationship and one tries to change the other or both try. I am a women of compromise so if I am with some one i will hear out what the other person has to say and take their feelings into consideration. Now that does not neccessarlly mean that i am going to completely give up or change to what it is you dislike to what you like. Now in the past i've been in a relationship where the guy that i was with wanted me to change the way that I dressed. Now, I don't dressed like a prostitute or a slut, I keep it sexy but classy at the same time. Now everyone knows that when you go out to the club that you want to look your best and you want to out do anyone that will be there. Now he was a male dancer so I admit I had to make sure I looked my best and better than any other female that would be there everytime I went. Now when we met my clothing attracted him to me, besides my personallity ( but of course the outter apperance is the first thing anyone see's ).  everything was good for the first 2 years then as time went on and people ( other male dancers )started knowing that we were together and looking more, i guess to see if they could try and get me. Well thats when all hell broke loose!!!!! He would catch attitudes with me just because someone would look, but he would never say anything it would just be the look on his face and I already knew. After awhile he would ask what am I going to wear to the club , I told him and made my first mistake in the same breath i asked him if he had a problem with what it was I was going to wear. Of course his answer was "YES"  but the he told me that I was a grown women and I can make my own choices, You know the guilt trip thing. So I didnt change at that point i was still doing me, then that brought on arguements. So in a nutshell I got tired of the arguing and I calmed it down a bit when I went to the club just out of respect for him and where he made his money. After awhile I started feling insecure about myself because I changed the way that I dressed to fit his needs, and it seemed as though he was looking at other women that looked sexier than me. It was like he wanted me to chnage so other men wouldn't look but then he would look at the women that were dressed sexy, some that were alot more revealing than I would ever dress!!!!!!!!!!  So I decided that I wasn't going to change because of his own insecurities although I did give him what he wanted in the beginning  but i told him he that he could deal or leave. We sat down and I explained to him that I never tried to chnage anything about him even though I would have liked to change what he did for a living, but I knew I couldnt cause that was what he did when we met and I accepted it.  He dealt with it, he came to realize that men are going to look no matter what it is that a woman is wearing if he finds her attractive. So my question is, would you change yourself to fit you spouses needs  or would you stay the same and tell them to love it or leave it?