just read an entry written by my close friend since highschool. it made me want to write the comment as an entry of my own. here it is:

friendship is just like other relationships. it's all about communication, maintenance, and trust. just like the romantic relationship, or husband and wife, the attraction, the interest, the love are already there to begin with. then... as journey goes, we need to maintain the relationship to make it grow deeper and last forever. this case is also true for our relationship with God, isn't it?

anyways, i totally understand how you feel. it's not easy to find a true friend. i remember when i moved to muncie for the first time. i had a hard time to find and to make friends. i was spoiled with the trusted community i had in goshen. i came there after high school knowing some friends already and knowing that they had good qualities. however, as i opened up myself and got to know new people around me, i found a community of friends that i could trust and rely on. i think being in school made the job easier.

now, being outta school and recently moved to this big LA land, i have been struggling with this matter of meeting and finding the "right" friends. so far, i haven't made any new friends. weekends have been misserable and boring without friends around... i've made a better and deeper connection with my laptop and relied on the internet connection and phone connection so far :)

however, being in this situation, i actually learned about the other meanings and aspects of friendship. first, i think there's no better friend than Christ. i have been accompanied by Him all this time. i know it seems to be a cliche and lame christian thought and answer, but i cannot hide it nor ignore to mention this. His care and fingerprints of the work He has done in my life have been the evidence of what kind of friend He is - more than a friend, of course He's also God and a Father for me.

then, there's also the need of earthly human friend that is of course cannot be ignored... i learn that true friends are those who are with me emotionally and are still thinking of me and praying for me even when i am not around them physically. i learn that true friends are those who still care and listen to my talks. at the same time, those true friends would do the same to me... they would come to me and talk to me about anything that they are thinking of regardless the distance, the time, the space... no matter how long we haven't met or talked to each others, we can always connect once we have the chance to. i have been blessed to experience and enjoy such friendships.

i wish that we all live close to each others, which would make it easy to meet and do things together. i wish that we all have the time to hang out as much as we want to. but the reality is different. we all have to spread out our wings and go to separate ways many times. with this, i have to say, i love technology - it has been a great tool for me to keep in touch with all my friends. as an evidence, this 360 thingy was a fruit of my friendship and care for one of my closest and old friend :) just want you to know also, my friend, that i never take you as a granted. i am grateful for all people that i have met and made friends with. my hope is that i could keep in touch with each one and maintain my relationship with all so that even when we are all alone physically in an unknown teritory, we know that we are not alone for we all are friends.

so, what are friends for? it's God's gifts for us... they are fellow human beings and partners to keep us all going in our journey on earth.

cheers, my friend

.v.