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Resentment is the re-feeling of anger or holding onto anger verses letting it go.

Forgiveness means to let go of anger & feeling, experiencing & expressing it thoroughly.

One guy says resentment is like you drinking poison & hoping it will kill the person you are angry with.

Another guy says some things are not forgivable & should never be forgiven.

Religious people will tell you with God all things are possible including forgiveness & then they go to war with each other & kill each other over their differences in religion or to get even with each other (vindictive).

I have yet to understand or figure that one out & besides it is not my responsibility anyway.

I agree there are some things that are not to ever be forgiven & I choose not to forgive these people for what they did & leave it at that. I can not be perfect in anything so why try? I also do not believe that God has forgiven them either & I will never change my mind on that period. I seriously doubt that God could be that stupid.

I know that what goes around always comes around so I know they will get theirs sooner or later just like I always did when I offended or did not obey The Golden Rule or The Ten Commandments Of Christianity. All religions have Commandments & consequences for those who disobey them. I have proven them to be true & correct. Ouch.

I actually got into a new religion other than Christianity because it was much easier to obey & had fewer must & did not believe there is such as thing as sin. They made it all up to suit themselves & their personalities & charactoristics. Not exactly the best thing for an addict.

The bottom line is if you are an addict anger & the re-feeling of anger (resentment) can & will kill you & finding a way to forgive even the un-forgivable is the key to staying alive & emotionally well even though that may not be something you really want to do or the last thing on your mind when feeling angry or re-sentful.

Anger is a good thing.

Resentment is not.

Resentment is the culprit.

It is not loving or caring towards self.

I look at what anger & resentment has done to many people in America that are hanging onto & re-generating anger & resentment in themselves for things that happened in America over 200 years ago & they are passing that on to their children & it is destroying them & their children & they are trying to destroy America in the process & actually doing a pretty good job of it.

They are so hateful & re-sentful & un-forgiveable they simply are not taking the time to smell the roses.

I have choices & can choose not to be that way but I must say I hate these people for what they are doing to hurt my country?

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