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"Feeling Small" May 26, 2009

Hello all..
I have not posted in a long while, I find that Yahoo is working much better than before so I will attempt this entry. I found this article on Yahoo and it is very accurate. Enjoy!

Although we like to think that the people in our lives are well-adjusted, happy, healthy minded individuals, we sometimes realize that it just isn't so. Personally, I've had moments where I'll be skipping through my day, happy as can be, thinking life is grand and BAM, I'll be blindsided by someone who manages to knock the happy wind out of my sails. Sometimes it is easy to write it off and other times, not so much.

Maybe you are a positive person, but when you are around a certain individual, you feel negative. Or, maybe you have an idealistic view of the world and when you are with certain people, you are made to feel silly, unrealistic or delusional. Or, maybe you pride yourself in being completely independent and in control of your life, but when you are around a certain family member, you regress into a state of childhood.

Some of these situations, and yes, these people, can have a tremendously negative impact on our lives. And, although we are all human and have our 'issues,' some 'issues' are quite frankly, toxic. They are toxic to our happiness. They are toxic to our mental outlook. They are toxic to our self-esteem. And they are toxic to our lives. They can suck the life out of us and even shorten our lifespan.

Here are the worst of the toxic personalities out there and how to spot them:

1. Manipulative Monica: These individuals are experts at manipulation tactics. Is a matter of fact, you may not even realize you have been manipulated until it is too late. These individuals figure out what your 'buttons' are, and push them to get what they want.

Why they are toxic: These people have a way of eating away at your belief system and self-esteem. They find ways to make you do things that you don't necessarily want to do and before you know it, you lose your sense of identity, your personal priorities and your ability to see the reality of the situation. The world all of a sudden becomes centered around their needs and their priorities.

2. Narcissistic Nancy: These people have an extreme sense of self-importance and believe that the world revolves around them. They are often not as sly as the Manipulative Marys of the world, but instead, tend to be a bit overt about getting their needs met. You often want to say to them "It isn't always about you."

Why they are toxic: They are solely focused on their needs, leaving your needs in the dust. You are left disappointed and unfulfilled. Further, they zap your energy by getting you to focus so much on them, that you have nothing left for yourself.

3. Debbie Downers: These people can't appreciate the positive in life. If you tell them that it is a beautiful day, they will tell you about the impending dreary forecast. If you tell them you aced a mid-term, they'll tell you about how difficult the final is going to be.

Why they are toxic: They take the joy out of everything. Your rosy outlook on life continues to get squashed with negativity. Before you know it, their negativity consumes you and you start looking at things with gray colored glasses yourself.

4. Judgmental Jims: When you see things as cute and quirky, they see things as strange and unattractive. If you find people's unique perspectives refreshing, they find them 'wrong'. If you like someone's eclectic taste, they find it 'disturbing' or 'bad'.

Why they are toxic: Judgmental people are much like Debbie Downers. In a world where freedom rings, judgment is sooo over. If the world was a homogeneous place, life would be pretty boring. Spending a lot of time with these types can inadvertently convert you into a judgmental person as well.

5. Dream Killing Keiths: Every time you have an idea, these people tell you why you can't do it. As you achieve, they try to pull you down. As you dream, they are the first to tell you it is impossible.

Why they are toxic: These people are stuck in what is instead of what could be. Further, these individuals eat away at your self-esteem and your belief in yourself. Progress and change can only occur from doing new things and innovating, dreaming the impossible and reaching for the stars.

6. Insincere Illissas: You never quite feel that these people are being sincere. You tell a funny story, they give you a polite laugh. You feel depressed and sad and they give you a 'there, there' type response. You tell them you are excited about something and you get a very ho-hum response.

Why they are toxic: People who aren't sincere or genuine build relationships on superficial criteria. This breeds shallow, meaningless relationships. When you are really in need of a friend, they won't be there. When you really need constructive criticism, they would rather tell you that you are great the way you are. When you need support, they would rather see you fail or make a fool of yourself.

7. Disrespectful Dannys: These people will say or do things at the most inappropriate times and in the most inappropriate ways. In essence, they are more subtle, grown up bullies. Maybe this person is a friend who you confided in and uses your secret against you. Maybe it is a family member who puts their busy-body nose into your affairs when it is none of their business. Or maybe, it is a colleague who says demeaning things to you.

Why they are toxic: These people have no sense of boundaries and don't respect your feelings or, for that matter, your privacy. These people will cause you to feel frustrated and disrespected.

8. Never Enough Nellies: You can never give enough to these people to make them happy. They take you for granted and have unrealistic expectations of you. They find ways to continually fault you and never take responsibility for anything themselves.

Why they are toxic: You will spend so much time trying to please them, that you will end up losing yourself in the process. They will require all of your time and energy, leaving you worn out and your own needs sacrificed.

All of these personalities have several things in common. 1) the more these people get away with their behavior, the more they will continue. 2) Unfortunately, most of these people don't see that what they do is wrong and as a result, talking to them about it will fall on deaf ears, leaving you wondering if you are the crazy one. 3) Most of these people get worse with age, making their impact on you stronger with time.

Frankly, life is too short to spend your time dealing with toxicity. If you can, avoid spending mucho time with people who are indicative of these behaviors and you'll feel a lot happier. Have you encountered these personalities? What have you done? Any personalities you would add?

Tuesday May 26, 2009 - 05:43pm (PDT) Permanent Link | 2 Comments

Caylee Anthony Search-Florida (November)

I thought I would post a pic of our group who attended the Caylee Anthony search last November. It was set up by Jenette who lives in Florida. She and her husband set the camp up before we arrived and it was 5 star! I have never met a woman nor anyone for that matter, who could set a camp up like her!

Jordan flew with Cindy and I on the plane, and Jordan acted as though she had done it all her life. US air accommodated us, and treated us wonderful. We arrived in Florida and began to search the next day. We met with TES (Texas equusearch) and were given our area's.

We stayed about a week, and returned home from 70* to 30* Brrrrr!

Since that time, Jenette has decided to have a cadaver dog of her own, and we have two pups here in training, one is hers! and she will travel here later this year to assist in local searches in our area, and take her new pup home!

Spring is quickly on it's way, and I do believe we will have Birdies garden, with a green house! I will post pics as we go. I sure miss her... the year went too fast.

Monday February 2, 2009 - 07:04am (PST) Permanent Link | 2 Comments

Would the real Casey 'please stand up' 10/22/08

Pathological Liar: Casey is not a pathological liar.. A pathological liar …lies for no good reason. They lie because they can, not to get out of things, or to manipulate. A pathological liar is in a class all of it’s own.

When one lies to get out of trouble, to side step an issue or happening to remove themselves from correction. That is called a manipulator.

Casey is a grand Manipulator. And she is a Narcissist. imo

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A 1996 editorial by Robert Hare who is the most prominent researcher on psychopathy, even inventing a diagnostic checklist which for complex reasons he named the Hare Psychopathy Checklist.

The article explains the difference between psychopathy and antisocial personality disorder.

He writes that in 1980 with DSM III, psychopathy was relabeled as antisocial personality disorder. While they still referred to the same individual, it was the approach that was different. This wasn't just a name change, it was a paradigm shift: instead of describing personality characteristics, it focused on behaviors. Not nouns, but gerunds.

Psychopathy: egocentricity, deceit, shallow affect, manipulativeness, selfishness, and lack of empathy, guilt or remorse

Antisocial Personality Disorder: persistent violations of social norms, including lying, stealing, truancy, inconsistent work behavior and traffic arrests

That this happens in 1980 makes sense, coming at a time where "people are not bad, behaviors are."

Interestingly, Hare is mostly concerned that this relabeling will mean psychopathy will be overdiagnosed. His reasoning is that APD is a broader classification-, and few of these are actually psychopaths. But once the "diagnosis" of APD is made, clinicians and lawyers may overgeneralize and call them psychopaths.

It matters. As Hare points out, psychopathy is considered an aggravating, not mitigating factor in a crime (opposite to, say, bipolar.) Psychopaths are evil and will do it again, so throw the book at them.

That was 1996.

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Anyone who has read more than one post on this blog knows where I'm going: What Hare had labeled psychopathy sounds a lot like narcissism.

A glance at the above description supports this, but there are three important differences.

Identity: The narcissist has identity-- but it is one he chose, not one that evolved naturally. That means he thinks of himself as something-- based on a model. He consciously identifies with someone-- Tony Soprano, the guy from Coldplay, Jack Kerouac, or a combination of traits from people, etc.

The psychopath has no model-- he just exists.

Since the narcissist's identity is entirely made up, it requires other people for constant reaffirmation of his identity and of its value. Psychopaths don't need people for this, they need them for material things.

Ability to feel:

Psychopathy is characterized by a lack of feeling and empathy-- a lack. When he kills you, he does not feel remorse, or fear-- after the immediate emotions, he doesn't feel anything. The next day is the same as the previous day.

"Narcissists, whatever their faults, feel deeply, too deeply. That's why they take rejection so hard."

No. Narcissists appear to have emotions, feelings, empathy-- they cry, laugh, feel your pain, etc-- but none of this is real. They don't feel it. It's not linked to anything internal. They're crying at the funeral, for sure, but on the inside they're wondering why it doesn't hurt as much as they think it should. They're proud at their daughter's ballet recital, but not actually proud, inside they're wondering about their promotion, or that jerk at the store, etc. He may feel pride that she's his daughter, but not empathy, nothing about her as a separate person.

Sometimes even they believe the emotion is real. If you've decided you're The Godfather, then those are the emotions you're going to experience or not experience, with the same intensities. Pride matters, lust won't. Etc.

And don't get confused. Narcissists don't pick their identity based on their genetic or preset emotional range; the choosing of the identity comes first. Picking who you are actually changes how you feel, how you think.

A narcissist is a psychopath who has assimilated the emotions of the character he is playing.

Narcissists don't feel guilt-- based on objective right and wrong-- they feel shame-- based on exposure. When they get caught, they're answer is always the same: "wait, that's not really who I am..."

The only thing narcissists truly feel is the pain of narcissistic injury, and rage.

Potential for violence:

The technical distinction is how psychopaths or narcissists internalize these aggressive or libidinal forces. Both feel aggression, but the narcissist takes that aggression and makes it a part of who he is: I am aggressive, I am an aggressor. The psychopath lacks a properly defined ego. He's not an aggressor; aggression is simply an as needed tool, a means to an end.

For the narcissist, violence is a volitional expression of rage, or the response to a narcissistic injury. If he doesn't get the affirmation he needs; if something threatens his identity, then he attacks.

The psychopath is utilitarian: I needed a burger, you had it, so I stabbed you in the throat. Whatever.

As bad as that sounds, here's the narcissist's discourse on the same crime: I needed a burger, you had it, so I stabbed you in the throat. But wait, that's not the whole story, listen, what I did was justified because...

III.

Someone is going to try and correct me, that what I am actually describing is Kernberg's malignant narcissism, and not NPD, or even "run of the mill" narcissism, which are not associated with violence.

And that would be wrong, which is the whole point. There is no difference between the three, it's all the same, what's different is the execution, not the potential.

There is a limitless, catastrophic potential for violence. That it rarely manifests is exclusively due to circumstances, not internal self controls. He's the married man of 20 years who suddenly

needs to stab his daughter 10 times because of something that hurt his pride.

It's the guy who goes to happy hour, then is about to get pulled over for a speeding ticket but is afraid of a DUI so he drives off. During the high speed pursuit he accidentally hits a kid on a bike, but instead of stopping decides now he really has to get away or else he's going to jail, so he drives even faster. Then he tries to run on foot and hide in a building, but-- surprise-- there's some woman there, so now he has to take her hostage because she's seen his face...

The psychopath does all those things because at each moment, that's his only option. The narcissist does them because he's "actually a good person, this stuff is just an aberration, if I can just get away I'll be back to being a valuable person again..."

And you may be tempted to blame the alcohol he had at happy hour. And that would be wrong.

Two kinds of violence: a means of protecting the identity from exposure or harm, or the result of rage from the identity being exposed or harmed.

You say: my narcissist never ran from the cops, he never killed his daughter. But that's because your narcissist had at that moment other ways of dealing with the problem. It's the potential for violence.

All narcissists have this potential, it is intrinsic to the personality structure, which is defined as "me above all things." Sure, usually they figure out non-violent ways to live their life, but that potential is there.

The reason a psychopath kills is because he is bad. The reason a narcissist kills is so that no one finds out he is bad.

A quick primer on the new Narcissism.

I don't mean the traditional Kernberg, Kohut, or even Freudian descriptions. In the modern times, I think narcissism has evolved.

A narcissist isn't necessarily an egotist, someone who thinks they are the best. A quick screen is an inability to appreciate that other people exist, and have thoughts, feelings, and actions unrelated to the narcissist. These thoughts don't have to be good ones, but they have to be linked to the narcissist. ("I'm going to get some gas-- because that jerk never fills the car.")

The narcissist believes he is the main character in his own movie. Everyone else has a supporting role-- everyone around him becomes a "type." You know how in every romantic comedy, there's always the funny friend who helps the main character figure out her relationship? In the movie, her whole existence is to be there fore the main character. But in real life, that funny friend has her own life; she might even be the main character in her own movie, right? Well the narcissist wouldn't be able to grasp that. Her friends are always supporting characters, that can be called at any hour of the night, that will always be interested in what she is wearing, or what she did. That funny friend isn't just being kind, she doesn't just want to help-- she's personally interested in the narcissist's life. Of course she is.

A comedian I can't remember made a joke about actors in LA, but it's applicable to narcissists: when two narcissists go out, they just wait for the other person's mouth to stop moving so they can talk about themselves.

So on the one hand, the narcissist reduces everyone else to a type, as it relates to himself; on the other hand, the narcissist, as the main character in his movie, has an identity that he wants (i.e. he made it up) and requires all others to supplement that identity.

A narcissist looks the same every day; he has a "look" with a defining characteristic: a certain haircut; a mustache; a type of clothing, a tattoo. He used these to create an identity in his mind that he will spend a lot of energy keeping up.

Consider the narcissist who wants his wife to wear only white, high heeled pumps. The narcissist wants this not because he himself likes white high heel pumps-- which he might-- but because the type of person he thinks he is would only be with the type of woman who wears white high heeled pumps. Or, in other terms, other people would expect someone like himself to be with a woman who wears those shoes. What he likes isn't the relevant factor, and certainly what she likes is irrelevant. What matters is that she (and her shoes) are accessories to him.

Never mind that the woman is obese, or 65, or the shoes out of style, or impractical-- the shoes represent something to him, and he is trying to reinforce his identity through that object.

Narcissists typically focus on specific things as proxies for their identity. As in the example above, that the woman might be obese or a paraplegic could be ignored if the footwear was the proxy for identity. These proxies are also easy to describe but loaded with implication: "I'm married to a blonde." Saying "blonde" implies something-- e.g. she's hot-- that might not be true. But the narcissist has so fetish zed "blondeness" that it is disconnected from reality. The connotations, not the reality, are what matters (especially if other people can't check.)

This explains why narcissists feel personally slighted when the fetish zed object disappears. "My wife stopped dying her hair blonde; but when she used to date her other boyfriends, she was in the salon every month. Bitch." He doesn't see the obvious passage of time, what he sees is part of his identity being taken from him, on purpose. Here's the final insult: "she obviously doesn't care about me as much as her old boyfriends."

As a paradigm, the narcissist is the first born (or only) child, aged 2-3. Everything is about him, and everything is binary. His, or not his. Satisfied, or not satisfied. Hungry, or not hungry. Mom and Dad are talking to each other and not me? "Hello! Focus on me!" Youngest children don't typically become narcissists because from the moment of their birth, they know there are other characters in the movie. (Youngest more easily becomes borderline.) Control, of course, is important to a narcissist. If you can imagine a 40 year old man with the ego of a 2 year old, you've got a narcissist.

Obviously, not all first born go on to be narcissists. Part of their development comes from not learning that there is a right and wrong that exists outside them. This may come from inconsistent parenting:

Dad says, "you stupid kid, don't watch TV, TV is bad, it'll make you stupid!" Ok. Lesson learned. But then one day Dad has to do some work: "stop making so much noise! Here, sit down and watch TV." What's the learned message? It isn't that TV is sometimes good and sometimes bad. It's that good and bad are decided by the person with the most power.

So the goal in development is to become the one with the most power. Hence, narcissists can be dogmatic ("adultery is immoral!") and hypocrites ("well, she came on to me, and you were ignoring me at home") at the same time. There is no right and wrong-- only right and wrong for them. He's an exaggerated example: if they have to kill someone to get what they want, then so be it. But when they murder, they don't actually think what they're doing is wrong--they're saying, "I know it's illegal, but if you understood the whole situation, you'd understand..."

Narcissists never feel guilt. Only shame.

I used several different sources in citing my opinion of Casey (to back up my opinion). Where she has been labeled a sociopath, I still don't feel there is enough information to support that label. Don't get me wrong...she very well could be. Casey in my opinion is described above, a mere Narcissist, with overtones of antisocial personality disorder. Remembering also ... A sociopath is firstly a Narcissist with additional qualities. A Narcissist on their own, are not necessarily a sociopath.

Wednesday October 22, 2008 - 11:00am (PDT) Permanent Link | 0 Comments

"Sweet Closure" September 11, 2008

Personal Update:

The purpose of this blog is to express opinion, and give information on how to understand human nature: How to overcome grief, How to find yourself

and heal yourself, and How to be a vessel for others who also have been victimized. Some abuse that we experience is due to our own nature, continuing a cycle of abusive behaviors on ourselves by those who may be long gone. The ending of a abusive behaviors, and the ending of cycles. Closure.

Closure is when we can at last be at rest with 'ourselves' and at peace with those of the past. Closure means letting go..and letting God. It's also a word used to describe the emotional effects of finally putting away those hurts, and situations that we all find ourselves in. Being finally healed of a situation is recognizing those who hurt us, why.. and forgiving them. Healed and Closure stand side by side.. holding us up, and letting us... put behind us those that intended to do harm to us. We let them go and move forward. We move forward much wiser and responsible for our own actions.

I came to this blog today with having been blessed recently with 'Closure'. As many of you know my Mother passed away this past January. Because of family strife and those who felt they needed to be in charge. My mother as a result of this dissention, has been waiting to be laid to rest. Having been cremated, her wishes were not honored. Where mothers often get taken care of last.. always giving beyond was is expected of themselves.. holds true even after death.

She has waited to be honored and respected and mourned. I am happy to remit in this blog today, her ashes have been released to me. She will now find her place in the earth..and be at peace. I know that she is not within those ashes but has moved on to be with our Lord. She is saved and I have no doubt that she is looking down and smiling, pleased with my patience. I give glory to our Father in Heaven for the situation that caused this to

come to fruition.

Where her wishes were to be with her husband some hours away from where I live, I have compromised with other family members and she will be placed near the home that she owned, and with her will be my brother, who has been waiting patiently since 1991. I never fully appreciated the closure that this can bring for loved ones yet living. As you know I do missing persons for others, and that is theme that motivates me...to find closure for those families. I now can say "I know how you feel" and I am even more motivated to help others find that "Peace" for others that has become a 'gift' to me.

I will blog..in a few weeks, when Jersey Birdie will be laid to rest. No doubt I will also find more treasures to share.

Thursday September 11, 2008 - 02:10pm (PDT) Permanent Link | 5 Comments

"Missing" Caylee Anthony 08/08/08

I haven't done a blog in awhile, I have been distracted and following the missing child case of Caylee Anthony in Florida. With a time/story line that I am sure is worthy of a movie, the contents of facts, or non facts is absolutely incredible. In this blog we have discussed the criminal mind in length. We have also discussed emotional and physical abuse. How to spot those that intend to do us harm. How to protect ourselves from others, or from ourselves. As we often time "trust those" who do not have our best interest's in mind.

Most of the time, we can spot a dysfunctional person fairly quickly. Hot tempered, unfair, self centered, the list goes on.

But what of those that move about us that "appear" normal? I had such a friend years ago. The life of the party, attractive and seemingly 'had it all". I admit some of the things she told me were incredible. But, I lived somewhat of an un-incredible life, and certainly someone such as xx could possibly have experienced many blessings/disasters'. She created a child in her mind that didn't exist and told me of the birth and labor of this child. I found out later...she did not have a child. Her stories, though possible always had an element of truth..but for the most part were wild "spins" off of a speck of truth. The case in Florida, involves a person "much like" this friend that I had some years ago.

I do not mean to imply that every Narcissistic player is dangerous. But, I can report that "this certain" type of personality disorder indeed can have a tragic theme. How does one go from a common self centered liar, to a cold and calculating narcissist? I can assure you, you might even have a family member such as this, or a friend or coworker that is a narcissist. Just as everyone isn't funny in the same way, every narcissist has their own flavor as well. How can we spot a narcissist? It isn't very easy! Most narcissist's are very convincing, and can be truly intelligent. They however 'know what they want" and know how to "act" to get it. So, what is it a narcissist wants? How is a narcissist created? And can they be cured? Are they truly crazy, and fake being normal? or do they lack the physical ability to be normal?

We can explore the makings of a narcissist through psychology. Remembering that psychology is a theory based science. Yes, there are those that have abnormal thought processes, it can be genetic, or taught through early childhood development, and also brought on through some diseases, and certainly a brain can be 'effected' from a chemical perspective. LSD has been proven to alter brain function (as an example).

In psychology: It is thought in early childhood development, as a child grows between birth and approx. 9 years old. The nurturing a child receives from the mother is a necessity of normal brain growth, when a child (as in my friends case) was denied "a bonding experience" with the mother, and if it is during the early age of brain development, a narcissist can be created. All children go through various stages of emotional growth. All children are narcissist's at one point. They cannot "feel" that the cat is in fact screaming to be let go, they cannot feel the cats pain/anguish/fear so it 'must not exist', as the child cannot feel it, as it is outside of their own being. This is a very normal stage of childhood development. It is thought that an adult narcissist is "stuck in that stage of development" and can however through trial and error..learn to "pretend" to feel those emotions: empathy/compassion. This type of adult learns, to imitate those emotions, and also learns to use that same "act" to obtain the much needed attention they did not receive from their mother/caregiver.

They have a constant need of attention, praise, and even if they do have accomplishments it will not be enough. They have an over blown sense of self that needs to be fed, to accommodate the lack of self esteem that comes from a nurturing parent.

Ted Bundy is a prime example of a "true Narcissist".

A biological narcissist: this theory is yet to be proven, but does not mean it does not exist. The investigation into gene placement, by heredity, or gene triggers are now the hottest topic in the science community. This topic is discussed in detail with links to various sources of enlightenment further back in this blog.

So, how do you know if your new friend is a narcissist? LOL by paying attention. If a story is out of place, or a constant theme of "I was the center" of it all, is apparent, you may check it out their claims.

In Casey Anthony's case, she has apparently been "spinning lies" off left and right her "whole life", and through the recent developments her family is learning that there are no truths within her. This may have come from a family that constantly "trying to fix" rather than letting their child experience consequences. Where her own Mother claimed: "If I sit with her long enough the truth comes out" That is not normal" I have not witnessed a true emotion yet from Casey, other than she feels entitled, and the lies have worked so far...why stop now? I sense a hint of vengeance in her choices. Not feeling good enough can make her attempt to prove she is...and those in her circle are finding out otherwise. A narcissist, is constantly battling shame, humility, and as we all know being human means give and take. We know we all make mistakes but a narcissist cannot risk having anyone see "that they don't measure up". In Casey's life, her family seems to be a successful caring, and financially able to provide a comfortable life style. Casey also wants to "appear" a winner, and cannot earn those effects on her own. So she creates it by stealing and lying in which to convince others of her wealth of entitlement. No doubt, if one were to interview those around Casey (those who are open, and not afraid it will make them look bad) you would find a history of inconsistent stories and disappearing money, clothes, and articles left with in her reach.

The narcissist would rather "die" than give it up. It is their "total sense of self" that is at risk of being found out. This is their life "source". Even when faced with irrefutable proof..they will find a way to escape it, and will turn on those known or made up to cast the blame on. When they are caught...they will change the subject. Sound like anyone you know? God forbid. A narcissist who is truly caught.. and "knows" there is no way out, will become the savior, a well and source of all information, spinning the story into a movie of which "they were in control" are now still in control, and will attempt to find attention even when all bets are off and caught. For those narcissist that cannot stand to be known as the source of lies and deception where a crime has been committed, they will leave the family and those concerned hanging and talking for a very long time, (Melinda Duckett).

Can this type of person be dangerous? Think about that. They need constant attention. And will squash anyone who threatens their self of being. Having no true regard of pain and suffering of others.

How does one manage a narcissist as in Caseys case? By "letting" them think they are gods gift. Let them feel in control, and the center of the universe, having all answers. Of course one would have to be a lie linguist..and sort through much bs to get the truth. But, in this case that seems to be the only way, as a small child's recovery rests on it.

I would absolutely love to have a sit down with Casey, much could be learned from such a visit :)

Suzan

"In My Honest Opinion"

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This posting below was said to have been written by Casey's mother Cindy and posted on her myspace blog on July 3, 2008 in reference to her missing Grand daughter Caylee.

Thursday, July 03, 2008
my caylee is missing
Current mood: http://x.myspace.com/images/blog/moods/iBrads … distraught

She came into my life unexspectedly, just as she has left me. This precious little angel from above gave me strength and unconditional love. Now she is gone and I don’t know why. All I am guilty of is loving her and providing her a safe home. Jealousy has taken her away. Jealousy from the one person that should be thankfull for all of the love and support given to her. A mother’s love is deep, however there are limits when one is betrayed by the one she loved and trusted the most. A daughter comes to her mother for support when she is pregnant, the mother says without hesitation it will be ok. And it was. But then the lies and betrayal began. First it seemed harmless, ah, love is blind. A mother will look for the good in her child and give them a chance to change. This mother gave chance after chance for her daughter to change, but instead more lies more betrayal. What does the mother get for giving her daughter all of these chances? A broken heart. The daughter who stole money, lots of money, leaves without warning and does not let her mother now speak to the baby that her mother raised, fed, clothed, sheltered, paid her medical bills, etc. Instead tells her friends that her mother is controlling her life and she needs her space. No money, no future. Where did she go? Who is now watching out for the little angel?

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A woman's account of her personal experiences with a Narcissist
http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/traits.html

The link above was broke, now it's fixed :)

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