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One Flaw In Women                             
                                                                           
                    Women have strengths that amaze men.                    
                                                                            
                They bear hardships and they carry burdens,                
                                                                           
                   but they hold happiness, love and joy.                   
                                                                            
                   They  smile when they want to scream.                    
                                                                            
                      They sing when they want to cry.                     
                                                                           
                        They cry when they are happy                       
                                                                           
                      and laugh when they are nervous.                     
                                                                           
                    They fight for what they believe in.                   
                                                                           
                        They stand up to injustice.                        
                                                                           
                     They don't take "no" for an answer                    
                                                                           
               when they believe there is a better solution.               
                                                                           
                 They go without so their family can have.                 
                                                                           
              They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.              
                                                                           
                         They love unconditionally.                        
                                                                           
                     They cry when their children excel                    
                                                                           
                  and cheer when their friends get awards.                 
                                                                           
                    They are happy when they hear about                    
                                                                           
                           a birth or a wedding.                           
                                                                           
                   Their hearts break when a friend dies.                  
                                                                           
                They grieve at the loss of a family member,                
                                                                           
                       yet they are strong when they                       
                                                                           
                      think there is no strength left.                     
                                                                           
                      They know that a hug and a kiss                      
                                                                           
                          can heal a broken heart.                         
                                                                           
                Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.                
                                                                           
                They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you                
                                                                           
                   to show how much they care about you.                   
                                                                           
                        The heart of a woman is what                       
                                                                           
                       makes the world keep turning.                       
                                                                           
                       They bring joy, hope and love.                      
                                                                           
                      They have compassion and ideas.                      
                                                                           
                      They give moral support to their                     
                                                                           
                            family and friends.                            
                                                                           
                       Women have vital things to say                      
                                                                           
                          and everything to give.                          
                                                                           
                  However, If there is one flaw in women,                  
                                                                           
                    IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.                    

Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. You can't build
a  lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot more. Rather,
love is  the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are
right, then  the love will come.

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about 
finding and keeping a life partner:

QUESTION #1: Do we share a common life purpose? If you're married for
20  or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you
plan to  do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together?
You need  to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a
common life  purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow
together, or  you can grow apart. To make a marriage work, you need to
know what you  want out of life and marry someone who wants the same
thing.

QUESTION #2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with
this  person?  This question goes to the core of the quality of your 
relationship.  Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this 
person. You feel emotionally safe.  The basis of having good
communication  is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for
expressing  my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an
abusive  person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your
thoughts and  feelings.

QUESTION #3: Is he/she a meniscus? A meniscus person is someone who is
a  refined and sensitive person.  Do they work on personal growth on a 
regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? Are they 
someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing?  What
do  they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a 
materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character 
refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world:
1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and 2) people who are 
dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be 
comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing.

QUESTION #4: How does he/she treat other people? The one most
important  thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By
giving,  we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.  Is this
someone who  enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in
themselves and  self-absorbed? How do they treat people whom they do not
have to be nice  to, such as a waiters, bus boy, taxi driver, etc.? 
How do they treat  parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and
appreciation?  Do they  gossip and speak badly about others?

QUESTION #5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person 
after we're married?  If you cannot fully accept this person the way
they  are now, then you are not ready to marry them.  Too many people
make the  mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to
"improve" them  after they're married.

In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous.
The  key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with
your  heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating;
to be  sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.
Falling in  love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on
your finger,  you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you
didn't do your  homework. Another perspective...  There are some people
in your life that  need to be loved from a distance. It's amazing what
you can accomplish  when you let go of or at least minimize your time
with draining, negative,  incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships. 
Observe the relationships  around you.  Pay attention. Which  ones lift
and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones  discourage?
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are  going
downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel  worse?
Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or 
appreciate you? The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, 
love and truth around you, the easier it will become for you to decide
who  gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the
balcony of  your life.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes
open,  and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involved and
make a  commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity,
ignorance,  pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to
warning signs.  Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you
can change someone  or that what you see as faults isn't really that
important. Once you  decide to commit to someone, over time his or her
flaws, vulnerabilities,  pet peeves and differences will become more
obvious. If you love your mate  and want the relationship to grow and
evolve, you've got to learn how to  close one eye and not let every little
thing bother you. You and your mate  have many different expectations,
emotional needs, values, dreams,  weaknesses and strengths.  You are two
unique individual children of God who have decided to share a  life
together. Neither one of you is perfect, but are you perfect for each 
other? Do you bring out the best in each other?  Do you compliment and 
compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control? What 
do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past 
hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't make someone love you or make 
someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a 
life" you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your 
happiness or responsible for your pain.  Manipulation, control,
jealousy,  neediness and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving,
healthy,  loving and lasting relationship.  Seeking status, sex, and
security are  the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

The following KEEP a relationship strong:
1.  Trust
2.  Communication
3.  Intimacy
4.  A sense of humor
5.  Sharing tasks
6.  Some get-a-way time without business or children
7.  Daily exchanges (e.g., a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a 
touch, a note)  8.  Sharing common goals and interests  9.  Giving each
other space to grow without feeling insecure  10. Giving each other a
sense of belonging and assurances of commitment

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as
resentment,  withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty and pain replace the
passion.