Contemplate the way you wish to be treated by another. Do you treat yourself with that love? If all is our mirror then how can anyone treat us better than we treat ourselves?

This is a time to challenge our belief systems which limit us and realize that we can only have what we expect that we deserve. Others are just a reflection of that expectation.

Notice that there is a common theme to all relationships you have that gets projected externally as the "others" constitution or the "others" problem. If this is true and it is "their" problem or creation then why are we here to whitness it? Notice as the external comes and goes that the internal suffering still exists. Notice that it existed before we even met the person that we are blaming.

The question is can you free yourself from being the victim of love. And can you recognize yourself as the very creator of the experience that has been created based on what you initially and subconsciously believe about yourself and how the world will react to who "yourself" is. If we realize this then we begin to tap into our innate divine creative power which changes the very fabric and substance of the reality of the world.

The caught victim self is the illusory self. our true nature is residing behind this self.